I get it. Society has drilled into us that humility is a virtue, that we should never appear too confident, too self-assured, too full of ourselves. But there’s a fine line between genuine humility and faux humble, and that line is often the difference between living in your light and dimming yourself for the comfort of others.

Let’s talk about something real—boundaries. For the longest time, I thought love meant always saying yes, always being available, and bending over backward to prove I cared. If I loved someone, I had to show up for them all the time, right? Saying “no” felt selfish. But you know what? That belief had me running on empty, feeling drained, resentful, and straight-up lost in my own relationships.

I've noticed that many people struggle to let beautiful souls exist as they are without feeling the need to control or reshape them. When they realize they cannot dominate or mold someone to their liking, they often turn to destruction instead.